I own a BlackBerry, personally I like BlackBerry's, I think they are alot better than Iphone.
However, I think that RIM fail to understand the leverage that WhatsApp has vs BBM.
BBM was the original, and us in the MTV generation love the idea of messaging globally, it reminds us of MSN Messenger and Yahoo. Perhaps RIM needs to work out how to intergrate BBM with their BlackBerry Desktop Software and allow for people to message from BB-DS to BBM's on their list. They need to "better" the Apps offered on Iphone
Sunday, July 31, 2011
Saturday, April 30, 2011
Reasons why Relationships fail to work and do not live up to expectations: Bad Dynamics
This note was actually requested by a close friend after I was annoyed and venting on the phone.
People wonder why their relationships do not work. Part of this is due to the Dynamics of the relationship. Often in regards to friendships.
Example:
Girl meets guy in a club, they flirt and exchange numbers (1on1 interaction)
Girl and guy flirt on the phone (1on1 interaction)
Girl and guy have coffee, see movie (1on1 interaction)
Girl and guy hang out (1on1 interaction)
Girl and guy begin dating (1on1 interaction)
This is often the basic framework for the initial period in dating. So what causes the problem with external friends? Simple. Dynamic changes
Girl and guy go to club, guy meets girls male friends (1on5 interaction). Jealousyusually then occurs because both partners have never seen the other in a situation where the same and opposing genders exist.
How to avoid, be transparent. if you value your friends, then make your possible partner meet them first so respect and a mutual understanding develops.
People wonder why their relationships do not work. Part of this is due to the Dynamics of the relationship. Often in regards to friendships.
Example:
Girl meets guy in a club, they flirt and exchange numbers (1on1 interaction)
Girl and guy flirt on the phone (1on1 interaction)
Girl and guy have coffee, see movie (1on1 interaction)
Girl and guy hang out (1on1 interaction)
Girl and guy begin dating (1on1 interaction)
This is often the basic framework for the initial period in dating. So what causes the problem with external friends? Simple. Dynamic changes
Girl and guy go to club, guy meets girls male friends (1on5 interaction). Jealousyusually then occurs because both partners have never seen the other in a situation where the same and opposing genders exist.
How to avoid, be transparent. if you value your friends, then make your possible partner meet them first so respect and a mutual understanding develops.
The Cost of a "Safe" Relationship
In psychology, Stockholm syndrome is a term used to describe a paradoxical psychological phenomenon wherein hostages express adulation and have positive feelings towards their captors that appear irrational in light of the danger or risk endured by the victims, essentially mistaking a lack of abuse from their captors as an act of kindness
There are generally 3 stances that the human mind can adopt when faced with a situation that develops around them or they are confronted with. These are; Empathy, Sympathy and Apathy. At any given point we will choose to view our surroundings from one of these points.
These views are generally affected by our personal experiences and relations to a situation.
I offer the theory that Stockhold Syndrome actually can exist in any form of "relationship" that involves close proximity and has mininal influence or association with contrasting people/characters/events or situations. However this syndrome is likely to affect personalities that have a strong slant towards Empathy.
Empathy is defined as; which literally translates as in feeling, is the capability to share another being's emotions and feelings.
This view can thus be extended to and includes "Safe" relationships, relationships when a person who has low self esteem, insecurities and no abilities is considered an option for someone who has been hurt in the past.
The problem is, the person who has been hurt in previous relationships, is usually not strong enough to help fix this new persons life problems and raise them up, nor do they have enough of a Apathetic slant to use them as a rebound and discard before damage is inflicted. Instead they tend to adopt the views and self esteem patterns of the "Safe" person. This is dangerous as their own self esteem, security and self belief and ultimately standards take a huge battery and sink to lower levels. This becomes cyclical because they believe that the person they are now with, is their only choice. They continue to sink lower and lower and develop depression as paranoid feelings and attitudes become present. Eventually they accept and follow that "Safe" parties view on most situations and display a "Us" vs "Them" facade to those around them, seeking to avoid situations that may make them think or remember their past lives. After a period of time they tend to isolate themselves and associate only with those who are also of the same thinking.
This is basically emotional suicide and generally leads to depression, divorce and even legitimate suicide as their conscience becomes more self aware as the duration increases.
[This is a Draft :P]
There are generally 3 stances that the human mind can adopt when faced with a situation that develops around them or they are confronted with. These are; Empathy, Sympathy and Apathy. At any given point we will choose to view our surroundings from one of these points.
These views are generally affected by our personal experiences and relations to a situation.
I offer the theory that Stockhold Syndrome actually can exist in any form of "relationship" that involves close proximity and has mininal influence or association with contrasting people/characters/events or situations. However this syndrome is likely to affect personalities that have a strong slant towards Empathy.
Empathy is defined as; which literally translates as in feeling, is the capability to share another being's emotions and feelings.
This view can thus be extended to and includes "Safe" relationships, relationships when a person who has low self esteem, insecurities and no abilities is considered an option for someone who has been hurt in the past.
The problem is, the person who has been hurt in previous relationships, is usually not strong enough to help fix this new persons life problems and raise them up, nor do they have enough of a Apathetic slant to use them as a rebound and discard before damage is inflicted. Instead they tend to adopt the views and self esteem patterns of the "Safe" person. This is dangerous as their own self esteem, security and self belief and ultimately standards take a huge battery and sink to lower levels. This becomes cyclical because they believe that the person they are now with, is their only choice. They continue to sink lower and lower and develop depression as paranoid feelings and attitudes become present. Eventually they accept and follow that "Safe" parties view on most situations and display a "Us" vs "Them" facade to those around them, seeking to avoid situations that may make them think or remember their past lives. After a period of time they tend to isolate themselves and associate only with those who are also of the same thinking.
This is basically emotional suicide and generally leads to depression, divorce and even legitimate suicide as their conscience becomes more self aware as the duration increases.
[This is a Draft :P]
Thursday, December 16, 2010
The Librarian Effect: Sexless Female Managers
This is a dangerous topic :P but so much fun.
TBC
I got interrupted lol
TBC
I got interrupted lol
Times: Man of the Year: Mark Zuckerberg WTF?
This is a load of nonsense, Mark Zuckerberg for Man of the Year? All he did was re-package an already re-packaged idea and conveniently managed to launch it at a period of time when "late adopters" (Yes I remember Marketing) decided that being a computer geek was cool. Prior to Myspace making the ground-breaking push most of the social media was left to Friendster and all the Asians. This is hardly an extra-ordinary effort. Anyone would be called "Man of the Year" based on those stats. Yet we have Assange who leaked all the war files with a "no mention". Haha pathetic Time, real pathetic.
Saturday, December 11, 2010
Women and the Starsigns they were born under
Now most people might think they Starsigns are completely without merit, however they seem to have some truth and this seems to be an interesting discovering. I guess after saying this I would need to expand on my views with some examples starting with myself.
I am a Pisces; I am insecure at times, I am generous, I hate fake people, I dislike being misled or seeing those about me having the same occur. However, unlike most Pisces, I really dislike being weak, and I dislike being led around. I am also quite open to criticism and willing to look internally. In some aspects that makes me typical, and others unique.
Most other close friends are strangely divided amongst the segments that Starsigns seem to give. I am close to other Pisces, Capricorns and Cancers. These 3 Starsigns seem to gravitate towards me. For example, in my gym, there are 4 girls who are close to me, who are all Capricorns and 3 who are Pisces. The others do not connect as we do. Even the girls around my life who are these Starsigns sometimes fight and become distant but always gravitate back. Strange.
The same can be said of the girls I have tension with. They are generally Leo's or Gemini's. The conflict is often because they like to mislead and manipulate people, making them jump through hoops and play little games. Most of them are more "standoffish" bitchy personalities and have no consideration for life except for what is in their own periphery. Sounds harsh, but the judgement stands and would be accepted by anyone who stands back and looks.
What else have I learnt over the last few years? I would say that this is to do with sex and relationships.
Cancers are very submissive, they like to offer alot, and consistently try and feed you. Sexually they enjoy bedroom activity. They tend to be excessively jealous and the moment they get into a relationship of some form, they will ditch their male connections quite willingly.
Capicorns are similar to Cancers, however they tend not to distance themselves from previous contacts. They do not seem to expect this from their lovers as well and understand the notion of harmless flirting.
Scorpios are consistently jealous, they dislike being chased and like to be the active party in this situation.
I am a Pisces; I am insecure at times, I am generous, I hate fake people, I dislike being misled or seeing those about me having the same occur. However, unlike most Pisces, I really dislike being weak, and I dislike being led around. I am also quite open to criticism and willing to look internally. In some aspects that makes me typical, and others unique.
Most other close friends are strangely divided amongst the segments that Starsigns seem to give. I am close to other Pisces, Capricorns and Cancers. These 3 Starsigns seem to gravitate towards me. For example, in my gym, there are 4 girls who are close to me, who are all Capricorns and 3 who are Pisces. The others do not connect as we do. Even the girls around my life who are these Starsigns sometimes fight and become distant but always gravitate back. Strange.
The same can be said of the girls I have tension with. They are generally Leo's or Gemini's. The conflict is often because they like to mislead and manipulate people, making them jump through hoops and play little games. Most of them are more "standoffish" bitchy personalities and have no consideration for life except for what is in their own periphery. Sounds harsh, but the judgement stands and would be accepted by anyone who stands back and looks.
What else have I learnt over the last few years? I would say that this is to do with sex and relationships.
Cancers are very submissive, they like to offer alot, and consistently try and feed you. Sexually they enjoy bedroom activity. They tend to be excessively jealous and the moment they get into a relationship of some form, they will ditch their male connections quite willingly.
Capicorns are similar to Cancers, however they tend not to distance themselves from previous contacts. They do not seem to expect this from their lovers as well and understand the notion of harmless flirting.
Scorpios are consistently jealous, they dislike being chased and like to be the active party in this situation.
Tuesday, December 7, 2010
The Economics of Housing prices (Mortgages/Housing Loans)
This post is relevant in ALL western countries that have housing estates, property developers and Government land releases for residential development. It also can explain how and why the Financial Bubble boost and the simple fact it can happen again.
How does a housing price actually work?
A housing price is made up of a number of things; primarily 'supply and demand', but also location on map, essential services availability, shopping/entertainment, education, road and rail networks, noise and pollution and athsetics (trees, parks, gardens, etc).
What can affect a housing price?
Any change of the above mentioned factors can affect the value of a property. The most dramatic being that of 'supply' as seen in the Global Meltdown when prices of houses dropped like domino's as people were unable to purchase. This affects Mortgages dramatically.
So what happens when the values change?
When a change occurs, the overall value of the property drops, depending on their depth of the drop an event occurs that is known as 'Over Capitalisation". This is when the Asset is suddenly worth alot less than the value of the loan. This then creates a complicated situation where the loan payments are still the same, but the property re-sale value has been completely damaged.
TBC
How does a housing price actually work?
A housing price is made up of a number of things; primarily 'supply and demand', but also location on map, essential services availability, shopping/entertainment, education, road and rail networks, noise and pollution and athsetics (trees, parks, gardens, etc).
What can affect a housing price?
Any change of the above mentioned factors can affect the value of a property. The most dramatic being that of 'supply' as seen in the Global Meltdown when prices of houses dropped like domino's as people were unable to purchase. This affects Mortgages dramatically.
So what happens when the values change?
When a change occurs, the overall value of the property drops, depending on their depth of the drop an event occurs that is known as 'Over Capitalisation". This is when the Asset is suddenly worth alot less than the value of the loan. This then creates a complicated situation where the loan payments are still the same, but the property re-sale value has been completely damaged.
TBC
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