Let me begin by stating the obvious, To a varying degree you are reading this book for the following reasons; You have LOW Self Esteem, You are a CURIOUS Person, You THINK that little peice of paper that says "Pyschologist" Entitles you to think you KNOW more than me and you wish to critique my views, or YOU thought this was a FAIRYSTORY, cynicism aside I am sure that there are a number of other reasons as to why you may read this, but to be honest; I plain don't care.
This book contains the views and experiences of one person, ME and will obviously be written from my own perspective. Accept it, Hate it, Deal with it. This book is So RAW that I will obviously need to edit it a few hundred times to make it acceptable to this PC Society that we live in; survive in. Example...Someone SHUT the DAMN Door, these little tweeting birds are REALLY getting on my DAMN Nerves!...Fuck, I've had a SHIT Month.
Okay, Self Esteem is defined as the the view one maintains of the self. According to Maslow's interpretations this view is affected by our hierarchy of needs. The more unsatisfied each of the components are, the worse our self esteem is as we view ourselves as incomplete or worthless. Sadly this view is somewhat simplistic. VERY Few people will ever achieve "self actualization", and trust me, when you get here, it's NOT as Cute and Pink as you might like; YES I am here, I skipped something along the way, I really don't know.
Respect is defined as the level of Respect that we maintain for ourselves and those about us; the stakeholders of our lives. Respect and Self Esteem are connected and I would argue; quite measureable. The HIGHER our level of Self Esteem then the HIGHER our level of personal Respect and external Respect and obviously vice versa. For example; A Professional Athlete generally has highlevels of Self Esteem and highlevels of Respect; where as a Drug Dealer and Crack Addict have low levels of both.
External Perceptions are defined as the view the outside world has on ourselves. This may appear to be irrelevant but infortunately it is the 3 main factor in the Trinity of a Secure Self. (Fuck that was awesome, I made that random shit up right here and now, aren't I smart?). Anyway, this view affects our levels of self esteem and respect. Why? Because the dominant society/culture about us DEFINES whether or not we have ACHIEVED. For example; A LV Handbag is marketed as a measurement of Success. Frankly that is stupid. Success is not measured by a label or 50c worth of PLASTIC Shaped like sunglasses.
So now that my three definitions are out of the way; those that will be used interchangeably and regularly through out this book, we can move onto pressing matters. Hands up who has a fat tummy, thighs, an ass or bad breathe? Ok, your FAT; lose some DAMN Weight and Brush your TEETH. Shit, thats harsh, was it? Really? No...what is HARSH is lying to yourself, those about you, and those you affect daily. Lying takes the form of MANY things. It can be actually spoken; verbally misled, physically expressed; overuse of MAKEUP, those STUPID Tights that HOLD your Stomach in or even through deliberate ignorance or distortion; ALCOHOL and DRUGS. Duh, you ever wondered why they were called "escapist activities".
Ok, now we have made some sense of these lies and there occurrences we need to understand WHY this matters in the big picture. Because when we LIE and build up an IMAGE we affect our self esteem, why so? because we forever worry that the image maybe dispelled and UNDERNEATH everything we have created; we are a loser. Ooh, Low Blow... Snap. I bet that made someone reflect; TRY the Mirror, it works better. For Example; when an OMG HOT Girl gives you attitude in a Club, 50% of the time you can get back to her with one word, mouthed slowly "Cellulite". Why? Because women through-out society are conscious of that one term, and generally have some. Thanks to magazines and the media this fat deposit is likely to be listed as one of the "Seven Deadly Sin's" for a woman to have physically. That and hairy arms.
Next on the agenda for Self Esteem would be "Residual Issues". What does "Residual" actually mean? Residual refers to the 'Left Over, or Left Behind'. For Example; Residual Waste is the waste products left behind. Or better Yet, for all the Dope Smokers out there; THC Residue>Residual is the LEFT over residue from smoking up when you should have been in school. Ok, now that we have got through down pat we need to understand the importance. If Residual refers to the PAST, then OBVIOUSLY Residual Issues are FROM out past but AFFECT our Present. Example; you WERE Fat, you ARE Skinny. Or a Better Example is; There is this BITCH (Male) Trainer at Fitness First in Murray St. He is quite muscular, but RUMOUR has it that he USE to be Chubby and Fat. So when I said "Hey move your FAT Ass" as a joke he took is PERSONALLY. Why? Because he has a RESIDUAL ISSUE. Ahaha.
Damn, I really need to stop eating this Honey-Coated Cashews...Im going to get FAT. What is next?
I am DAMN sure that there is another paragraph or definition that requires itself to be listed. But for the purposes of a smooth transition and writing before writers block gets to me I will continue. Oh yeah, Depression.
Depression is often a mental state that is developed through our own perceptions, these perceptions are generally of ourselves, how we percieve certain events or how we feel we acted IN certain events.
Depression usually manifests itself in the Physical. For example; cutting of the wrist, hanging, drug addiction. These Escapist events help deal with the pain. However Depression is linked strongly to the Residual.
Now the final two definitions, the ones I seem to hear most of all. Arrogance and Confidence.
Arrogance is defined (In my eyes) as the Guise of Confidence without Sustainiated History or Experience. In otherwords, you think you've got game, but you choke with big shots. Sorry Lebron.
While Confidence is defined as; an ability or talent that has a MEASUREABLE History. For example; Jordan and Bryant hit ALOT of Gamewinners and possess NBA Titles. Sorry Again Lebron.
Now I think the definitions are complete. Damn, thats alot of nonsense. Anyway, why does this all matter? Why does understanding this help? Because UNDERSTAND all of this gives you the ability to develop REAL Confidence, Avoid Issues in Life and Move Forward and Aspire.
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