This is one of the few Astrological Starsign Relationships I am completely familiar with; having been involved with numerous Capricorn Women and being a Pisces. (Strangely enough, my closest Male friend is also a Capricorn and there are a few other Pisces in the group).
The Capricorn/Pisces relationship is almost a perfect synergy, almost, but not quite.
Capricorns rely on a Pisces ability to be perceptive and push them towards their dreams, even if the Pisces lacks their own ability. Pisces often benefit from a large amount of attention from a Capricorn, this balances their vulernabilities and insecurities. Pisces are often forced to keep up with Capricorns in a social sense and this offers a Weakness in the relationship. Pisces are flirtatious similarly to Capricorns, but more shy when it comes to new situations. Capricorns are more likely to jump in straight away. This shyness in a Pisces often means that they shy from public situations (especially in Males).
Pisces are usually generous givers, this is greatly appreciated by Capricorns, who although are not materialistic in the sense of the Saggitarius cousins, who do appreciate some lavishness at times.
Capricorns generally repay the favours, as they innately feel a need to show their emotions through tasks such as cooking, etc. Capricorns are also greatly impressed by a Pisces abilities to absorb and understand a great deal of information. The ability to provide insight to foreign concepts impresses greatly. Although Pisces often get frustrated by the continual need to roll the ball (the ball being the Capricorn) and strive to create prepetual motion.
Weak Pisces and Capricorns are often a self esteem disaster as both have incredible lows and frustrations with those around them. Often the overextend in friendships about them and ultimately feel betrayed.
TBC
Sunday, September 25, 2011
Tuesday, September 20, 2011
Understanding Expats in Asia and their triggers/reasons/insecurities
Alot of people may dispute what I am about to write, but you know what? "Fuck them". You might question my arguement and validity, but at the end of the day, unless you have something strong back your views up with, you will have to conceed.
In order to give a fair viewpoint I should probably explain in brief my own background.
I was born and raised in Australia, I played alot of sport, went to a decent private school for my primary years, followed that to a decent mid-tier private school for upper studies before boredom made me transfer to one of the poorest "hardest" school's in the state. Crazy choice, now that is a regret. Anyway, so I failed highschool, went to tech-school, got bored, sat my university extrance exams and went to university. Along the way I became a drug dealer, partied alot, still hit the gym and played sport. In all this time, I paid attention to the media and people around me. That gives me some sort of experience in making this statement.
In the West (the US, Australia, NZ, UK, etc) a Male at school is applauded for having a great deal of athletic ability. Where as in the East (Singapore, HK, Japan, etc) the ability to count and be good at science is appluaded. These situations have an affect on the esteem levels of people. People in the West, especially males who are good at "non-athletic" activities are not applauded, people who take drama class I.e GLEE CLUB Nonsense are considered effeminate, just like the male cheer leaders in Bring It On.
In short, people who fail to succeed athletically develop insecurities and low self esteem. It is innate, if the school bully says "Move!" you Move. Whether it is when you are 15, or 35. Same with the school jock (Athlete). So basically these people are losers!. Sounds harsh!, but do we watch EPL, and Rugby and the NBA, or the NFL or chess and maths competitions? You know the answer. Thus expats take this personal atttiude and viewpoint of themselves to the places they relocate. They recieve attention from Women. Women they only imagined at school, Women they fantasied about. Thus they treat Women like Shit. They have no respect. Their level of Self Esteem complicates this ability to show Respect and be content. Their fears make the chase and swap partners regularly. Thus damaging the people around themselves. Just because someone is a trader or a banker DOES NOT MAKE THEM NOT A LOSER. If they are expat, trust me, when someone who is an athlete or confident walks past, they will be quiet. When someone challenges them; they will be quiet. Why? Fear and Memories of the way those "athletes" made them feel growing up.
I need to elaborate, but I am hungry.
In order to give a fair viewpoint I should probably explain in brief my own background.
I was born and raised in Australia, I played alot of sport, went to a decent private school for my primary years, followed that to a decent mid-tier private school for upper studies before boredom made me transfer to one of the poorest "hardest" school's in the state. Crazy choice, now that is a regret. Anyway, so I failed highschool, went to tech-school, got bored, sat my university extrance exams and went to university. Along the way I became a drug dealer, partied alot, still hit the gym and played sport. In all this time, I paid attention to the media and people around me. That gives me some sort of experience in making this statement.
In the West (the US, Australia, NZ, UK, etc) a Male at school is applauded for having a great deal of athletic ability. Where as in the East (Singapore, HK, Japan, etc) the ability to count and be good at science is appluaded. These situations have an affect on the esteem levels of people. People in the West, especially males who are good at "non-athletic" activities are not applauded, people who take drama class I.e GLEE CLUB Nonsense are considered effeminate, just like the male cheer leaders in Bring It On.
In short, people who fail to succeed athletically develop insecurities and low self esteem. It is innate, if the school bully says "Move!" you Move. Whether it is when you are 15, or 35. Same with the school jock (Athlete). So basically these people are losers!. Sounds harsh!, but do we watch EPL, and Rugby and the NBA, or the NFL or chess and maths competitions? You know the answer. Thus expats take this personal atttiude and viewpoint of themselves to the places they relocate. They recieve attention from Women. Women they only imagined at school, Women they fantasied about. Thus they treat Women like Shit. They have no respect. Their level of Self Esteem complicates this ability to show Respect and be content. Their fears make the chase and swap partners regularly. Thus damaging the people around themselves. Just because someone is a trader or a banker DOES NOT MAKE THEM NOT A LOSER. If they are expat, trust me, when someone who is an athlete or confident walks past, they will be quiet. When someone challenges them; they will be quiet. Why? Fear and Memories of the way those "athletes" made them feel growing up.
I need to elaborate, but I am hungry.
Friday, August 19, 2011
15th Century Views in the 21st Century Sphere: Men Viewpoints of Women
We often claim that we are living in the 21st Century, with 21st Century views that are applied equally across the board. However this is often inaccurate. Especially in regards to sex.
Sex is one of the few area's where Males and Females fail to see the big picture. This often leads to unhappiness and sadness for failure to understand the other parties aims and goals.
Males tend to have sex for a gratification attitude, to accomplish something, prove something to themselves. Sadly, this is fleeting, it cannot be quantified. In doing this they also fail to see the other value that a woman may offer them. By saying this, I am referring to networking, opportunity, education, friendship.
Whereas Females tend to have sex in order to find an opportunity, despite the fact that at times they contest this viewpoint. In having the sex so readily, they fail to appropriately "advertise" their other attributes to the males they choose. It takes an experienced male to recognise the other options, despite the lack of relationship prospects.
TBC
Sex is one of the few area's where Males and Females fail to see the big picture. This often leads to unhappiness and sadness for failure to understand the other parties aims and goals.
Males tend to have sex for a gratification attitude, to accomplish something, prove something to themselves. Sadly, this is fleeting, it cannot be quantified. In doing this they also fail to see the other value that a woman may offer them. By saying this, I am referring to networking, opportunity, education, friendship.
Whereas Females tend to have sex in order to find an opportunity, despite the fact that at times they contest this viewpoint. In having the sex so readily, they fail to appropriately "advertise" their other attributes to the males they choose. It takes an experienced male to recognise the other options, despite the lack of relationship prospects.
TBC
Define: Alpha Male
In this post I will seek to define an Alpha Male. There is alot of conjecture in society about what an Alpha Male represents and the characteristics they maintain. This distortion creates confusion for Males and misinformation for Females.
An Alpha Male is generally a Male of great Confidence and Dominance. The confidence is often based on Innate Belief Patterns. These patterns are heightened through learned experiences.
Primarily the confusion comes from the term "Dominant". Dominant does not mean; Possessive, Controlling, Forceful or Violent. It actually means that the dominant male expresses underlying pressure to make appropriate choices, whether they are present or not. This is generally a neutral or positive choices. The latter views generally relate to negative choices, that fail to build and rather subjegate. True Alpha Males seek lesser Alpha Females. They feel safer entrusting judgement and decisions with these personalities.
Alpha Males are generally quite sexual creatures, however this does not mean that they are "degenerate". If often means that we do not respect weaker parties around us, and continually change partners, we are somewhat seeking some balance. Alpha Males do not share partners with others, our confidence and attitudes make this idea quite appalling. Males who seek to share their partners are in fact Beta Males who require some form of control of a woman to feel stronger.
Alpha Males are generally respectful of parties and situations they feel equal to themselves. They also seek to aspire, and gravitate towards other stronger mentors, absorbing experiences and strengthening themselves and their approaches.
Alpha Males are generally quite rigid in their belief systems and are less likely sell out their ideals.
An Alpha Male is generally a Male of great Confidence and Dominance. The confidence is often based on Innate Belief Patterns. These patterns are heightened through learned experiences.
Primarily the confusion comes from the term "Dominant". Dominant does not mean; Possessive, Controlling, Forceful or Violent. It actually means that the dominant male expresses underlying pressure to make appropriate choices, whether they are present or not. This is generally a neutral or positive choices. The latter views generally relate to negative choices, that fail to build and rather subjegate. True Alpha Males seek lesser Alpha Females. They feel safer entrusting judgement and decisions with these personalities.
Alpha Males are generally quite sexual creatures, however this does not mean that they are "degenerate". If often means that we do not respect weaker parties around us, and continually change partners, we are somewhat seeking some balance. Alpha Males do not share partners with others, our confidence and attitudes make this idea quite appalling. Males who seek to share their partners are in fact Beta Males who require some form of control of a woman to feel stronger.
Alpha Males are generally respectful of parties and situations they feel equal to themselves. They also seek to aspire, and gravitate towards other stronger mentors, absorbing experiences and strengthening themselves and their approaches.
Alpha Males are generally quite rigid in their belief systems and are less likely sell out their ideals.
Sunday, August 14, 2011
Damaged Goods: Self Repair for the Hangbag Generation
Daryl Brunt (c) 2010 Don't STEAL My Shit MOFO's (I need to re-write this and change the structure)
I guess I should start this Essay cum Book with some sort of Introduction, I mean after all, I am sure the are going to be plenty readers who are going to raise the questions "Why does this mere male think he knows so much about women?" and "What are his qualifications? Has he even got any life experience to make these statements". So yes, we'll start with my background. I know women, women of all shapes and sizes, races and nationalities. I won't raise my hand and say that I am a player or I have been a player, but I have had a number of adventures over the years, including a period of single fatherhood and during these events I have definitely taken to time to sit back and observe the dynamics of people and cracks within those around me. Ok, concede that I may have a clue.
People (Women) often make the statement that Men are the weaker sex, unfortunately, in my experience, I really dispute this. Yes, I agree that Men are somewhat weaker in the 21st Century than at any othertime in history and some Men are definitely weaker than Women in small numbers, but sadly Women are even weaker still. Ignoring that petty arguement it is obvious to see that the weakness in both Genders stems from their own personal self esteem issues. These self esteem issues create vulnerabilities and cause both gender groups to act and react in a different way. Women often seek to validate their lives by gaining the attentions of Men. Often this need is satisfied in a sexual manner, Men in turn also seek to validate themselves, and just like women, this is in a sexual manner. Often that, in regards to Men, represents a numbers game. Personally I would admit to this flaw, although I seem to have some control over this, though vulnerability still remains. In saying that, it should be considered that this essay/book is written from a Man's perspective in regards to women around him and Men will not be discussed in great lengths.
The 20th and 21st century brought society an explosion in the use of sexual imagary within the media; advertising, role models, image association and the like. Often these views were subconsciously pushed, although there is an awareness within behavioural studies about what effects these pressures cause within the recepients. Women in general usually gain their initial self esteem from their figure and physical representation, when this fails to deliver the expected outcomes, they question this first. This question is raised regardless of the realistic connection between the positive and negative situations.
The reason this is physical is often raised, generally by Women rather than Men is because of their measure of confidence. The 21st Century is a creation of Men; the Professions, the Goals, the Aims. All things are generally taken from a male perspective. In essence then, this also means that the tools for measuring confidence are also of male origin. Men tend to measure things in a less emotional, more tangible way. In other words, how something looks. If it looks bad, then it needs repair, or change, or adjustment, or replacing. Women tend to measure things in a emotional way; how things feel, or make them feel, or what they radiate.
[In the Development Stage, like a nice Dinner....marinating in my head :P]
I guess I should start this Essay cum Book with some sort of Introduction, I mean after all, I am sure the are going to be plenty readers who are going to raise the questions "Why does this mere male think he knows so much about women?" and "What are his qualifications? Has he even got any life experience to make these statements". So yes, we'll start with my background. I know women, women of all shapes and sizes, races and nationalities. I won't raise my hand and say that I am a player or I have been a player, but I have had a number of adventures over the years, including a period of single fatherhood and during these events I have definitely taken to time to sit back and observe the dynamics of people and cracks within those around me. Ok, concede that I may have a clue.
People (Women) often make the statement that Men are the weaker sex, unfortunately, in my experience, I really dispute this. Yes, I agree that Men are somewhat weaker in the 21st Century than at any othertime in history and some Men are definitely weaker than Women in small numbers, but sadly Women are even weaker still. Ignoring that petty arguement it is obvious to see that the weakness in both Genders stems from their own personal self esteem issues. These self esteem issues create vulnerabilities and cause both gender groups to act and react in a different way. Women often seek to validate their lives by gaining the attentions of Men. Often this need is satisfied in a sexual manner, Men in turn also seek to validate themselves, and just like women, this is in a sexual manner. Often that, in regards to Men, represents a numbers game. Personally I would admit to this flaw, although I seem to have some control over this, though vulnerability still remains. In saying that, it should be considered that this essay/book is written from a Man's perspective in regards to women around him and Men will not be discussed in great lengths.
The 20th and 21st century brought society an explosion in the use of sexual imagary within the media; advertising, role models, image association and the like. Often these views were subconsciously pushed, although there is an awareness within behavioural studies about what effects these pressures cause within the recepients. Women in general usually gain their initial self esteem from their figure and physical representation, when this fails to deliver the expected outcomes, they question this first. This question is raised regardless of the realistic connection between the positive and negative situations.
The reason this is physical is often raised, generally by Women rather than Men is because of their measure of confidence. The 21st Century is a creation of Men; the Professions, the Goals, the Aims. All things are generally taken from a male perspective. In essence then, this also means that the tools for measuring confidence are also of male origin. Men tend to measure things in a less emotional, more tangible way. In other words, how something looks. If it looks bad, then it needs repair, or change, or adjustment, or replacing. Women tend to measure things in a emotional way; how things feel, or make them feel, or what they radiate.
[In the Development Stage, like a nice Dinner....marinating in my head :P]
Smoke and Mirrors: Self Esteem, Respect and External Perceptions
Let me begin by stating the obvious, To a varying degree you are reading this book for the following reasons; You have LOW Self Esteem, You are a CURIOUS Person, You THINK that little peice of paper that says "Pyschologist" Entitles you to think you KNOW more than me and you wish to critique my views, or YOU thought this was a FAIRYSTORY, cynicism aside I am sure that there are a number of other reasons as to why you may read this, but to be honest; I plain don't care.
This book contains the views and experiences of one person, ME and will obviously be written from my own perspective. Accept it, Hate it, Deal with it. This book is So RAW that I will obviously need to edit it a few hundred times to make it acceptable to this PC Society that we live in; survive in. Example...Someone SHUT the DAMN Door, these little tweeting birds are REALLY getting on my DAMN Nerves!...Fuck, I've had a SHIT Month.
Okay, Self Esteem is defined as the the view one maintains of the self. According to Maslow's interpretations this view is affected by our hierarchy of needs. The more unsatisfied each of the components are, the worse our self esteem is as we view ourselves as incomplete or worthless. Sadly this view is somewhat simplistic. VERY Few people will ever achieve "self actualization", and trust me, when you get here, it's NOT as Cute and Pink as you might like; YES I am here, I skipped something along the way, I really don't know.
Respect is defined as the level of Respect that we maintain for ourselves and those about us; the stakeholders of our lives. Respect and Self Esteem are connected and I would argue; quite measureable. The HIGHER our level of Self Esteem then the HIGHER our level of personal Respect and external Respect and obviously vice versa. For example; A Professional Athlete generally has highlevels of Self Esteem and highlevels of Respect; where as a Drug Dealer and Crack Addict have low levels of both.
External Perceptions are defined as the view the outside world has on ourselves. This may appear to be irrelevant but infortunately it is the 3 main factor in the Trinity of a Secure Self. (Fuck that was awesome, I made that random shit up right here and now, aren't I smart?). Anyway, this view affects our levels of self esteem and respect. Why? Because the dominant society/culture about us DEFINES whether or not we have ACHIEVED. For example; A LV Handbag is marketed as a measurement of Success. Frankly that is stupid. Success is not measured by a label or 50c worth of PLASTIC Shaped like sunglasses.
So now that my three definitions are out of the way; those that will be used interchangeably and regularly through out this book, we can move onto pressing matters. Hands up who has a fat tummy, thighs, an ass or bad breathe? Ok, your FAT; lose some DAMN Weight and Brush your TEETH. Shit, thats harsh, was it? Really? No...what is HARSH is lying to yourself, those about you, and those you affect daily. Lying takes the form of MANY things. It can be actually spoken; verbally misled, physically expressed; overuse of MAKEUP, those STUPID Tights that HOLD your Stomach in or even through deliberate ignorance or distortion; ALCOHOL and DRUGS. Duh, you ever wondered why they were called "escapist activities".
Ok, now we have made some sense of these lies and there occurrences we need to understand WHY this matters in the big picture. Because when we LIE and build up an IMAGE we affect our self esteem, why so? because we forever worry that the image maybe dispelled and UNDERNEATH everything we have created; we are a loser. Ooh, Low Blow... Snap. I bet that made someone reflect; TRY the Mirror, it works better. For Example; when an OMG HOT Girl gives you attitude in a Club, 50% of the time you can get back to her with one word, mouthed slowly "Cellulite". Why? Because women through-out society are conscious of that one term, and generally have some. Thanks to magazines and the media this fat deposit is likely to be listed as one of the "Seven Deadly Sin's" for a woman to have physically. That and hairy arms.
Next on the agenda for Self Esteem would be "Residual Issues". What does "Residual" actually mean? Residual refers to the 'Left Over, or Left Behind'. For Example; Residual Waste is the waste products left behind. Or better Yet, for all the Dope Smokers out there; THC Residue>Residual is the LEFT over residue from smoking up when you should have been in school. Ok, now that we have got through down pat we need to understand the importance. If Residual refers to the PAST, then OBVIOUSLY Residual Issues are FROM out past but AFFECT our Present. Example; you WERE Fat, you ARE Skinny. Or a Better Example is; There is this BITCH (Male) Trainer at Fitness First in Murray St. He is quite muscular, but RUMOUR has it that he USE to be Chubby and Fat. So when I said "Hey move your FAT Ass" as a joke he took is PERSONALLY. Why? Because he has a RESIDUAL ISSUE. Ahaha.
Damn, I really need to stop eating this Honey-Coated Cashews...Im going to get FAT. What is next?
I am DAMN sure that there is another paragraph or definition that requires itself to be listed. But for the purposes of a smooth transition and writing before writers block gets to me I will continue. Oh yeah, Depression.
Depression is often a mental state that is developed through our own perceptions, these perceptions are generally of ourselves, how we percieve certain events or how we feel we acted IN certain events.
Depression usually manifests itself in the Physical. For example; cutting of the wrist, hanging, drug addiction. These Escapist events help deal with the pain. However Depression is linked strongly to the Residual.
Now the final two definitions, the ones I seem to hear most of all. Arrogance and Confidence.
Arrogance is defined (In my eyes) as the Guise of Confidence without Sustainiated History or Experience. In otherwords, you think you've got game, but you choke with big shots. Sorry Lebron.
While Confidence is defined as; an ability or talent that has a MEASUREABLE History. For example; Jordan and Bryant hit ALOT of Gamewinners and possess NBA Titles. Sorry Again Lebron.
Now I think the definitions are complete. Damn, thats alot of nonsense. Anyway, why does this all matter? Why does understanding this help? Because UNDERSTAND all of this gives you the ability to develop REAL Confidence, Avoid Issues in Life and Move Forward and Aspire.
This book contains the views and experiences of one person, ME and will obviously be written from my own perspective. Accept it, Hate it, Deal with it. This book is So RAW that I will obviously need to edit it a few hundred times to make it acceptable to this PC Society that we live in; survive in. Example...Someone SHUT the DAMN Door, these little tweeting birds are REALLY getting on my DAMN Nerves!...Fuck, I've had a SHIT Month.
Okay, Self Esteem is defined as the the view one maintains of the self. According to Maslow's interpretations this view is affected by our hierarchy of needs. The more unsatisfied each of the components are, the worse our self esteem is as we view ourselves as incomplete or worthless. Sadly this view is somewhat simplistic. VERY Few people will ever achieve "self actualization", and trust me, when you get here, it's NOT as Cute and Pink as you might like; YES I am here, I skipped something along the way, I really don't know.
Respect is defined as the level of Respect that we maintain for ourselves and those about us; the stakeholders of our lives. Respect and Self Esteem are connected and I would argue; quite measureable. The HIGHER our level of Self Esteem then the HIGHER our level of personal Respect and external Respect and obviously vice versa. For example; A Professional Athlete generally has highlevels of Self Esteem and highlevels of Respect; where as a Drug Dealer and Crack Addict have low levels of both.
External Perceptions are defined as the view the outside world has on ourselves. This may appear to be irrelevant but infortunately it is the 3 main factor in the Trinity of a Secure Self. (Fuck that was awesome, I made that random shit up right here and now, aren't I smart?). Anyway, this view affects our levels of self esteem and respect. Why? Because the dominant society/culture about us DEFINES whether or not we have ACHIEVED. For example; A LV Handbag is marketed as a measurement of Success. Frankly that is stupid. Success is not measured by a label or 50c worth of PLASTIC Shaped like sunglasses.
So now that my three definitions are out of the way; those that will be used interchangeably and regularly through out this book, we can move onto pressing matters. Hands up who has a fat tummy, thighs, an ass or bad breathe? Ok, your FAT; lose some DAMN Weight and Brush your TEETH. Shit, thats harsh, was it? Really? No...what is HARSH is lying to yourself, those about you, and those you affect daily. Lying takes the form of MANY things. It can be actually spoken; verbally misled, physically expressed; overuse of MAKEUP, those STUPID Tights that HOLD your Stomach in or even through deliberate ignorance or distortion; ALCOHOL and DRUGS. Duh, you ever wondered why they were called "escapist activities".
Ok, now we have made some sense of these lies and there occurrences we need to understand WHY this matters in the big picture. Because when we LIE and build up an IMAGE we affect our self esteem, why so? because we forever worry that the image maybe dispelled and UNDERNEATH everything we have created; we are a loser. Ooh, Low Blow... Snap. I bet that made someone reflect; TRY the Mirror, it works better. For Example; when an OMG HOT Girl gives you attitude in a Club, 50% of the time you can get back to her with one word, mouthed slowly "Cellulite". Why? Because women through-out society are conscious of that one term, and generally have some. Thanks to magazines and the media this fat deposit is likely to be listed as one of the "Seven Deadly Sin's" for a woman to have physically. That and hairy arms.
Next on the agenda for Self Esteem would be "Residual Issues". What does "Residual" actually mean? Residual refers to the 'Left Over, or Left Behind'. For Example; Residual Waste is the waste products left behind. Or better Yet, for all the Dope Smokers out there; THC Residue>Residual is the LEFT over residue from smoking up when you should have been in school. Ok, now that we have got through down pat we need to understand the importance. If Residual refers to the PAST, then OBVIOUSLY Residual Issues are FROM out past but AFFECT our Present. Example; you WERE Fat, you ARE Skinny. Or a Better Example is; There is this BITCH (Male) Trainer at Fitness First in Murray St. He is quite muscular, but RUMOUR has it that he USE to be Chubby and Fat. So when I said "Hey move your FAT Ass" as a joke he took is PERSONALLY. Why? Because he has a RESIDUAL ISSUE. Ahaha.
Damn, I really need to stop eating this Honey-Coated Cashews...Im going to get FAT. What is next?
I am DAMN sure that there is another paragraph or definition that requires itself to be listed. But for the purposes of a smooth transition and writing before writers block gets to me I will continue. Oh yeah, Depression.
Depression is often a mental state that is developed through our own perceptions, these perceptions are generally of ourselves, how we percieve certain events or how we feel we acted IN certain events.
Depression usually manifests itself in the Physical. For example; cutting of the wrist, hanging, drug addiction. These Escapist events help deal with the pain. However Depression is linked strongly to the Residual.
Now the final two definitions, the ones I seem to hear most of all. Arrogance and Confidence.
Arrogance is defined (In my eyes) as the Guise of Confidence without Sustainiated History or Experience. In otherwords, you think you've got game, but you choke with big shots. Sorry Lebron.
While Confidence is defined as; an ability or talent that has a MEASUREABLE History. For example; Jordan and Bryant hit ALOT of Gamewinners and possess NBA Titles. Sorry Again Lebron.
Now I think the definitions are complete. Damn, thats alot of nonsense. Anyway, why does this all matter? Why does understanding this help? Because UNDERSTAND all of this gives you the ability to develop REAL Confidence, Avoid Issues in Life and Move Forward and Aspire.
The Cost of a Safe Relationship
In psychology, Stockholm syndrome is a term used to describe a paradoxical psychological phenomenon wherein hostages express adulation and have positive feelings towards their captors that appear irrational in light of the danger or risk endured by the victims, essentially mistaking a lack of abuse from their captors as an act of kindness
There are generally 3 stances that the human mind can adopt when faced with a situation that develops around them or they are confronted with. These are; Empathy, Sympathy and Apathy. At any given point we will choose to view our surroundings from one of these points.
These views are generally affected by our personal experiences and relations to a situation.
I offer the theory that Stockhold Syndrome actually can exist in any form of "relationship" that involves close proximity and has mininal influence or association with contrasting people/characters/events or situations. However this syndrome is likely to affect personalities that have a strong slant towards Empathy.
Empathy is defined as; which literally translates as in feeling, is the capability to share another being's emotions and feelings.
This view can thus be extended to and includes "Safe" relationships, relationships when a person who has low self esteem, insecurities and no abilities is considered an option for someone who has been hurt in the past.
The problem is, the person who has been hurt in previous relationships, is usually not strong enough to help fix this new persons life problems and raise them up, nor do they have enough of a Apathetic slant to use them as a rebound and discard before damage is inflicted. Instead they tend to adopt the views and self esteem patterns of the "Safe" person. This is dangerous as their own self esteem, security and self belief and ultimately standards take a huge battery and sink to lower levels. This becomes cyclical because they believe that the person they are now with, is their only choice. They continue to sink lower and lower and develop depression as paranoid feelings and attitudes become present. Eventually they accept and follow that "Safe" parties view on most situations and display a "Us" vs "Them" facade to those around them, seeking to avoid situations that may make them think or remember their past lives. After a period of time they tend to isolate themselves and associate only with those who are also of the same thinking.
This is basically emotional suicide and generally leads to depression, divorce and even legitimate suicide as their conscience becomes more self aware as the duration increases.
[This is a Draft :P]
There are generally 3 stances that the human mind can adopt when faced with a situation that develops around them or they are confronted with. These are; Empathy, Sympathy and Apathy. At any given point we will choose to view our surroundings from one of these points.
These views are generally affected by our personal experiences and relations to a situation.
I offer the theory that Stockhold Syndrome actually can exist in any form of "relationship" that involves close proximity and has mininal influence or association with contrasting people/characters/events or situations. However this syndrome is likely to affect personalities that have a strong slant towards Empathy.
Empathy is defined as; which literally translates as in feeling, is the capability to share another being's emotions and feelings.
This view can thus be extended to and includes "Safe" relationships, relationships when a person who has low self esteem, insecurities and no abilities is considered an option for someone who has been hurt in the past.
The problem is, the person who has been hurt in previous relationships, is usually not strong enough to help fix this new persons life problems and raise them up, nor do they have enough of a Apathetic slant to use them as a rebound and discard before damage is inflicted. Instead they tend to adopt the views and self esteem patterns of the "Safe" person. This is dangerous as their own self esteem, security and self belief and ultimately standards take a huge battery and sink to lower levels. This becomes cyclical because they believe that the person they are now with, is their only choice. They continue to sink lower and lower and develop depression as paranoid feelings and attitudes become present. Eventually they accept and follow that "Safe" parties view on most situations and display a "Us" vs "Them" facade to those around them, seeking to avoid situations that may make them think or remember their past lives. After a period of time they tend to isolate themselves and associate only with those who are also of the same thinking.
This is basically emotional suicide and generally leads to depression, divorce and even legitimate suicide as their conscience becomes more self aware as the duration increases.
[This is a Draft :P]
Subscribe to:
Posts (Atom)